The statements listed here are the sorts of feelings and attitudes which people sometimes have towards themselves. Please read each statement carefully and indicate the extent to which it applies, please try to be completely frank and honest. Try as far as possible to place your ticks in the ‘Mostly Yes’ and ‘Mostly No’ columns, the two middle columns are really for if you cannot make up your mind. Please fill this in by yourself, your partner should not help you nor discuss it with you. Make sure that you select an answer for every statement.

I keep myself to myself *
Question 1 of 48
I easily give in to people *
Question 2 of 48
I consider my needs are worth fighting for *
Question 3 of 48
I hold on to people too much *
Question 4 of 48
I have no difficulty telling another person what to do *
Question 5 of 48
I can never convince myself that people really love me *
Question 6 of 48
I am prepared to put up a fight to get what I want *
Question 7 of 48
I do not let people get too close to me *
Question 8 of 48
I like to be the one in control *
Question 9 of 48
I prefer other people to take the lead *
Question 10 of 48
I have a tendency to cling to people *
Question 11 of 48
I tend to keep my feelings to myself *
Question 12 of 48
I can be very protective towards someone who is close to me *
Question 13 of 48
I have a dread of being rejected *
Question 14 of 48
I can be quite ruthless when I need to be *
Question 15 of 48
I am more of a follower than a leader *
Question 16 of 48
I try to keep people for myself *
Question 17 of 48
When people I like go away I long for their return *
Question 18 of 48
It annoys me when people will not do what I expect of them *
Question 19 of 48
I have no difficulty doing what people tell me *
Question 20 of 48
I tend to get back at people who offend me *
Question 21 of 48
I cannot bear to be left on my own *
Question 22 of 48
I prefer it when someone else is in control *
Question 23 of 48
I tighten my hold when someone close to me looks interested in someone else *
Question 24 of 48
I appreciate it when others tell me what to do *
Question 25 of 48
I do not let people get away with insulting me *
Question 26 of 48
When I tell people what to do I expect them to do it *
Question 27 of 48
I can never be sure that people approve of me *
Question 28 of 48
I leave it to others to make the decisions *
Question 29 of 48
I find it easy to be affectionate *
Question 30 of 48
I don’t like others to know too much about me *
Question 31 of 48
When there’s a confrontation I back off *
Question 32 of 48
I keep a firm hold on someone who is close to me *
Question 33 of 48
I am inclined to put people in their place *
Question 34 of 48
I feel uncomfortable if things are not done the way I want them *
Question 35 of 48
I know that there are people I can turn to if I need to *
Question 36 of 48
If I can’t do something I find someone who can show me *
Question 37 of 48
I try to arrange things so that people do what I want *
Question 38 of 48
I try to ensure that someone who is close to me does not get too interested in other people *
Question 39 of 48
When people try to intimidate me I retreat *
Question 40 of 48
I am afraid that people are going to lose interest in me *
Question 41 of 48
I don’t let people stray too far away from me *
Question 42 of 48
I tend to get so close to people I can’t bear to let go of them *
Question 43 of 48
When things go wrong I’m inclined to think it’s my fault *
Question 44 of 48
When I am put under pressure I withdraw *
Question 45 of 48
I find it pleasant to get away from people *
Question 46 of 48
I prefer to keep people at a safe distance *
Question 47 of 48
When people impose their will on me I pull away *
Question 48 of 48
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